No matter what relations are special, relation with parents, with friends, with teacher with known and with unknown. Each relation brings something new in our life, it fills some part of a jig-saw called life, without which it would have remained incomplete. It brings a lesson to be learnt and love to be share, an emotion to be expressed and a bond to rejoice.
However, things do not remain same forever, people changes because of changing society, technology, politics, economy and for many more such reasons. Change is inevitable, in fact its only change that is constant to put it in crude words, if you don't change, you will perish, hence change is inbuilt in human genes and that is the only fact which has brought us here where today we stands as humans, and that shall not change.
But, there are relations who we trust more than we depend on ourselves, we need more than we need oxygen, when people involved in such relation changes, truth becomes so ugly, that we want to ignore it, to forget it to decide to believe and live in past. We tend to force our wishes and expects them to be respected and feels greatly hurt when truth comes out to be a sourer than we imagined.
Why it happens, why we feel hurt, despite knowing the fact that some got to change some day, that its not impossible to live without anyone and that no matter what life goes on. Why we tend to blur those facts and highlight what we were trying to suppress as a nightmare, that actually wasn't a nightmare but a truth standing naked in broad day light
Is it because we have invested so much in a relation that we fear to be emotionally bankrupt if we lose that specific relation, or is it because we depend so much on that that we tend to forget that there are several other relations exists in our live too.
Is it because our pride hurts when someone changes against our wishes
Is it because we feel cheated because someone has changes though we had expected that one not to change
Is it because we are being an emotional fool
In my view third and last point should suffice to say it all. In our country where we brought up in an environment of respecting each and every relation no matter how insignificant that is, we are supposed to maintain it and that develops a tendency within to keep relations but it doesn't taught us how to do that.
It makes us a semi robot when it comes to relation and expect us only to respect, but never told us what to do when ignored.
This brings a self learned style to deal with those questions, few adopts anger to suppress their feelings, few hide in tears, few seek solace in lamenting themselves for their actions and few do the bigger sin and leave this world well before living their life, off-course all of this is wrong and no matter what cannot be termed right, no matter supported by what argument these reactions do not have a place in the life of any sensible human being.
The, few would ask what should one do when hurt, well I'm no doctor or any relationship expert. But I an tell what I do, I adopt a simple line "I'm fine". Because I know what ever has happened has a reason and there is no point in taking a relationship until I get that reason and there is no point in lamenting, or being angry or crying without knowing that reason. Because unless I know that "Change Agent", I doesn't matter what I do, relations are not going to change.
Its not about "who's" fault, but its about failing at spotting the change and being disappointed when all of a sudden finding it right on the top of the head and it should be understood that its a mutual failure.
Nothing's gonna change unless you yourself adopt to that change, and to do so you need to learn, learn by your actions and by the action of others, and that's the only way you can manage to bring life back in your life, else each and every time you will end-up hurting yourself.
There is no point in over committing yourself, there is not point in over ego, over anger or anything that is above accepted limits and there is no point in forcing your habits down someone else's throat and threatening him otherwise. There is no point in "trying" or in pretending that you are trying to save a relation, because other are human too and they can spot your ego and your anger very well, thus unless you don't have enough fire to save a relation you should not try to do so.
one needs to change with time, with relations and that's the only way to have good relation till eternity and the last and the most important point is to respect someone else's decisions, to understand his point of view and his thinking that has went behind a decision, and rest assure if you succeed in doing so, you won't find yourself hurt again.
Have a happy life...